Right now, I’m sitting on my couch, laptop in hand, writing this for you. I imagine you are also somewhere cozy, maybe your own couch at home, perhaps with your significant other beside you. I assume you have spreadsheets full of wedding details opened on your computer, or a binder chalk full of ideas. At the very least, you have that dream Pinterest board you keep referring to for ideas and inspiration. Whatever way you plan for your wedding, it’s likely that the work seems endless, the task too daunting, the pressure too great.
While we’re in the depths of wedding planning, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. It doesn’t matter how far along you are in the process or how big of a wedding you are planning - even the most intimate affairs still take work to put together. After all, a wedding isn’t something you plan every day, and honestly the task of finding someone to plan it for you can be hard. Between budgets and well-meaning family and researching venues, it’s easy to let this single day consume us. How wedding planning is going can dictate our attitudes, be the foundation of our days, and what keeps us up at night.
Dear couple, planning the wedding of your dreams -
Whether you have $30k to spend, or only $500 to spare;
Whether you have friends and family traveling to celebrate you, or just a handful of your favorite people;
Whether your first-pick vendors are all lined up, or you’ve crafted everything by hand;
You’re doing okay. And you’ll be okay.
Let go of the pressure to have everything perfect. Because chances are, it won’t be, but truth is it will be. Remember why you are getting married in the first place. Remember the moments you first fell for each other. Remember this wedding day is a celebration of your love - and doesn’t define it.
I want you to know it’s okay to not have the answers to people’s questions about inspiration, style, or flowers. It’s okay to still be working out the kinks. It’s okay to take a break from planning to enjoy life and dream a little bit more.
After all, chances are you’re doing better at this than you think you are. You’ll be just fine. Take a breath, take it slow - these days are precious, too.
Some of our favorite weddings have been planned, coordinated, and decorated completely by the bride. We know from experience that DIY weddings can be just as fabulous and lovely as weddings planned done alongside a professional. But sometimes, you need a little bit of help. You need a extra eye to go over the vendor contracts, or someone who actually knows some amazing vendors. You need someone to cheer you on, or with an artistic eye, and with experience putting amazing events together.
There’s no shame in reaching out for a some extra help, or even hiring someone to plan the whole thing for you. Honestly, if it saves you stress and allows you some freedom while you’re engaged- then it’s well worth it.
Choose a planner who will cheer you on from the sidelines, who supports your vision, who gives you room to create a day you truly love.